Why girls don’t date nice guys
So let me preface this with two things. First that this is very similar to Love’s tumblr posts so shout out to her for inspiring me to blog this. Secondly, I no longer have any sympathy for nice boys. Nice guys always complain that girls only go for the “bad boy” and that they are always single. I myself usually go for the bad boy and to switch things up a little, courtesy of Gabe’s advice, I finally tried to like a nice boy. So far this has not been working out to my advantage—like I was promised—and so I decided to compile a list as to why girls don’t like nice guys:
1) Nice guys don’t know when you are flirting with them
2) Nice guys never make a move
3) Nice guys do nice things for us, making it look like you like us
4) When a bad boy treats us like shit- it’s expected, when a nice guy does it, it just throws us off guard
5) Nice guys always have girlfriends/are in love with someone else’s gf
6) Nice guys let their girlfriends walk all over them—that’s just sad
7) A bad boy is a just a one time thing, a good guy makes you want a relationship-which doesnt happen (see #1 and 2 or reasoning)
8) Nice guys are too nice to tell you they aren’t interested
9) If you don’t like me, then don’t hang out/txt me everyday. kthanks
10)If you don’t want to be frustrated do yourself a favor and crush on a jackass- atleast that way you won’t be disappointed because your standards were already so low.
So obvi I’m just playin(kinda) but its somewhat(really fucking) annoying liking nice guys. I think I’ll just stick with the douche bags.
So this summer is quickly come to an end. I have ten days before I go back to school and I’m really grateful that I had this time to really get a sense of what is important to me and where I am going in life. This summer I learned to be sure of myself, to value and appreciate that my opinions and feelings are equally as important. I am eternally grateful for all the wonderful people God has given me in my life. I have the most amazing friends. I love them all so much. I am ready to be me again. I have lost the person I became when the floor came out from underneath me. I will no longer apologize for the person I was in my weakest moment. I am back to the old me. I am back to loving life and loving people and being grateful for the wonderful life I have. Last night when Molly and Amanda were over, we got to talking about God. Over the past several years, i have felt an enormous distance between God and myself. I thought he couldn’t love me because I wasnt perfect. I thought he thought I didnt try hard enough and that I was destined to fail so he wouldn’t waste his time on me. I think that forgiving yourself for not being perfect is probably the hardest thing you will ever do. So amanda was saying how she wasn’t sure she believed in God, that she didn’t understand a lot and that she was confused. My response was that i think God only cares that we are trying. That he knows it’s hard and he gives us credit for trying to believe even when we aren’t completly sure. It was then that I realized my answer all along. It was then that I realized I needed to take my own advice. God loves me for who I am as a person. God loves me for me. He does not expect me to be perfect, he does not expect me to be a saint. God just expects me to be the best me I can be. He is supportive not dictorial. He wants me to succed, he is not waiting for me to mess up just so he can punish me. God is just like a parent, wanting the best for their child, hoping that they make the right decisions, just wanting the child to do the best they can do because thats all anyone can ask for. God just like a parent, just hopes we dont make so big of a mistake that we can’t fix. He gives us just enough rope so we can hang ourselves. He gives us the opportunity to do what’s right and to be ourselves, but just enough so he can reign us in again if we fall to far off the path. I know now that God is not disappointed in me, I know now that he is rooting me on. He is loving and forgiving and now I truely can understand what that means. There is nothing better than knowing u will always have someone there who will love you and support u and will never point out your mistakes but will help you work through them. Thank you and I love you Father.
Ireland Day 12/13- Prepare to die…I mean leave
So we did up going to Reardens that night and there was a liv band and we all danced the night away and I totally lost my hearing cause I was right up against the speaker the whole time. It was serious craic though and then we were off to Dublin the next day. It was supposed to be a 4 1/2 hr bus drive, but that turned into a 6 hour bus drive due to security measures for the queen. On the way to Dublin we stopped in Kilkenny and saw a castle. It was cool but we were all just so shot and wanted to get to Dublin for our hotel. So last night we all had dinner together and Deckland sat near m and entertained me throughout the dinner- I get a kick out of him though I know others dont think he’s as funny as I do. We then headed to the bars towards Temple Bar area. These stupid frickin boys followed us and cat-called and whatever and it took all my self control not to shout back at them for being immature and completely rude. Kathleen, Andrea, Laura, and I decided to bar hop starting with Temple Bar, then to 2 other bars, and finally we finished at the Dubliner. We met this amazing Spanish guy who bought us rounds of drinks throughout the night. He was so frickin nice and fun to talk to. Kathleen and I did some dancing, which was a lot of fun and I talked to the bartender a lot cause he was mad chill. Kathleen and I striked up a conversation with the bathroom attendent Marie and we were dancing to the music in the bar with her in the bathroom. I think we helped make her night a little more fun. We then hailed a cab and headed back to the hotel. Kathleen btw is my hero. Legit she’s so fecking funny I just can’t. She was talking to the cab driver from Nigeria the whole way back and when he told her how expensive it was for us- she was so funny about the whole sitcuation. I don’t want to say what she said out of context, it just won’t be as funny. So Today we went to Trinity College and saw the book of kells and the old library. The library looked like the library in Beauty and the Beast…it was so cool and when I grow up I want something like that in my house…tho I don’t know how well that will work but I yea lol. The book of kells is beyond fasinating….all the detail is redic and I was so impressed by it. I love it when things have layers of meaning and you have to uncover the meaning. Which is prolly why I liked St. Finbarr’s Cathderal so much too. Then w went to the Guinness Factory where the produce, duh Guinness. It wasn’t really my cup of tea, but the view from the sky deck was really cool. Too early is the morning to drink in my opinion but cheers to anyone who could stomach it! Tonight the plan is dinnerat 7, finish packing getting ready etc. and then pregame then club. Last night here and most of us are going to stay up as late as we can and sleep on the plane tomorrow-we are leaving the hotel at 6:30 am so yeah. and then I’ll be home in America spending the Saturday with my whole family to celebrate my little sister’s bday! so here’s to a good night- Slainte!
Ireland 10/11- Cork is like Heaven…..Sorta?
Okay so I didn’t blog yesterday because there really wasn’t any time, but i’m going to try and do justice to the last few days. So Dingle was a really cute town-really small- but cute nonetheless. We had dinner at Murphy’s pub and had the nicest guy serve us. Then we went to an droicad beag, the only pub in Dingle that stays open until 2 am. There were a lot of young people there as the night went on and some very nice boys tried to strike up conversations, but I was too tired to make new friends (Sorry Dingle Boys). We had a very chill night playing pool with the Irish and me switching up the music on the jukebox. Shazi even hung out with us This is the bar, very colorful as you can see. Our tour guide Deckland was there and bought some of us drinks. Then we woke up then next morn-yesterday- to head out to Cork. Before we left for Cork though, we traveled to this gorgeous Cove and took awesome pictures. Dingle is so beyond beautiful. My camera died so all of the pics are on Brianna’s camera so you’ll have to wait for those pictures. We also passed through Kilarney and walked around the National Park and had a zillion gorgeous views. Then from Kilarney we had another hour drive to Cork. So yesterday we arrived in Cork around 6, and checked into the River Lee Hotel.
The River Lee is so frickin nice and I went swimming, went to the steam room, and went to the sauna. It was so nice. Then we went to dinner at SOHO, which was lovely minus the fact that it took us 3 hours to eat because the service was soooooo slow and we didnt get to go out until 11pm. Then we went to Bailey’s bar. It was a nice place, the people not so much. These Cork girls are mad aggresive towards us. This one girl who legit looked like Snooki pushed Brianna…I was like are you serious? We didn’t stay out too late cause of the scene and woke up at 7 this morn to head out to St. Finbarr’s cathedral and Blarney Castle. My friend I made in Galway, Tony, told me that there is this great bar Rearden’s that has a night club above it and that Wednesday nights are good party nights. I am looking forward to that. St. Finbarr’s Cathederal was so beyong beautiful and the symbolism throughout the church was incrediable. He had staing glass that depicted the whole bible. There were three Rose windows, one depicting the creation, one depicting salvation/judgement day, one depicting the hierarchy of heaven. The cathedral is shaped like a cross, but the top portion was rounded. the rounded portion depicted stain glass of all the new testament, while the arms depicted the prophets, and the bottom of the cross had stain glass depicting the old testament. There are so many different things-symbolism in the tiles of the fish, and the different animals representing john, luke, matthew, and mark. Amazing. I even bought two books about the Cathedral because it fasinated me so much. Blarney castle was just as much fun and we went inside the dungeon, which I found a little morbid not going to lie. Then we climbed Blarney Castle and I kissed the Blarney stone. That castle is fecking high and I was nervous not going to lie. But I did it nonetheless. Then we went to the English Market for lunch- which I loved so frickin much! It’s like the farmer’s market we have in Ardmore. Good food, good times. Then I came back and took a well needed nap because my nerves were getting worn. Idk what the plan is for dinner just yet….I’m trying to decide whether or not to go swimming or to start getting ready…based upon the consensus of the group. but I do think we will end up in Reardean’s tonight and I’m hoping tonight is better than the last two-but no expectations!
Ireland Day 9: Dingle Pennisula
Hello all. I am officially in Dingle, Ireland. It took us all day to get here, but it is one of the most gorgeous places I have ever seen. Let me back track a little to yesterday so I can record that. So we went to McSwiggin’s Bar and it was such a lovely dinner. We had a bottle of wine with our food and the atmosphere was incredible. From there we headed to the King’s Head to listen to the Elastic Band until 11:30ish then Laura and I headed to the Front door followed by Karma, a night club. At the king’s head there were these really obnoxious guys hitting on us and it was making us mad uncomfortable. This one girl was dancing in the middle of the bar by herself incredibly intoxicated. She came over and literally pulled Brianna out of her seat and forced her to dance. I found it funny, but Brianna felt mad uncomfortable. Since the Nova boys didn’t show up- Laura and I wer able to peace out and leave the others at the King’s Head while we went off and did our own thing. At the Front Door we met Connacht Rugby players- which I thought was pretty cool- they were mad loud and all over the place, but it was cool nonetheless. Lastly Karma was the most fun. We were able to dance and for a Sunday night there was a pretty good amount of people there. This one kid fell down the stairs and landed on his face in the club from being intoxicated and didn’t move for a solid 20 minutes. I got really nervous that he had gotten really hurt, but the bouncers got him out and moving eventually. Laura and I had a good time chatting it up with some boys, talking, and shifting :). I met this really nice guy named Connor who is a farmer in Galway. He was too cute. He told me, he gets really nervous talking to girls and that he didn’t know how to dance. He was too frickin cute. So I taught him how to salsa and how to dance oh the dance floor. He was a ton of fun. Laura got to really know one boy Roman and they hit it off. Then we headed home round 3 and woke up this morn at 8 to pack up fast and eat before leaving at 9. We went to the Cliff’s of Mohr today and it was super duper windy out. I’m going to be honest that it wasn’t as awesome as I had built it up in my mind to be. I think it was because there was railings up everywhere and so I couldn’t get the type of pictures I wanted. A couple of people jumped the fence and took a path leading away from the railings. I wanted to go but couldn’t convince anyone else to join me in my adventures. We then visited the town of Tralee, we didn’t get to get out but it was pretty. Also I got to see a dwelling place of acient Irishmen also known to the Irish as Fairy Forts. I got to hear a bunch of Irish folklore which I personally found to be captivating, but I just like that kind of stuff. And after a long journey, we are now at our hotel, Benners which is frickin beautiful. Tonight the plan is pretty simple, but I’ll tell all tomorrow when I figure out what we are doing. til then!
Ireland Day 8: Slainte Galway!
So I don’t really feel like blogging right now. I just finished getting ready for our last night of fun in Galway. Tomorrow we are heading out and stopping at the cliffs of mohr and connemara on the way to dingle. Last night was pretty fun. We grabbed a quick dinner and then we headed to the front door to start off our night. We then went to Carbon night club where there was legit like 5 people in the whole club, so we peaced and went to club K and Brianna got kissed by this guy on the dance floor, which legit made my night. We then went and finished out night and the Kings Head and it was beyond crowded. I forgot to mention I ran into Cassie and her nova friends at club k and we hung with them for the night. I was so happy we ran into each other cause her internet wasn’t working and we couldnt get in touch earlier in the day. Today Bri and I went to La Salsa, and I got the best vegetarian dish so far on this trip. It was so good. We are now heading to dinner to McSwiggins, or something and then to the kings head. So yeah not much interesting stuff going on except partying and having a good time :)
Ireland Day 7- Aran Islands
So last night I decided to go to visit Cassie at her apartment. It was mad chill and I got to meet all of her suite mates. On the way over I had the nicest Irish man driving me. He was so frickin funny, I was actually looking forward to the cab ride home(second guy wasn’t so nice haha). Speaking of nice, I really liked the two girls who are Cassie’s suitemates. I would put their names in, but I don’t know how to spell them so I’m not even going to try. We hung around and watched Irish shows and I learned about hen parties and prawn cocktail. It was fun catching up and hanging around. Today we went to the Aran Islands and it was frickin beautiful. I uplouded the pictures to facebook in case anyone is interested in seeing some of them. There are more to come when my friends upload theirs! I had the most amazing homecooked lunch there and we hiked up to Dun Aengus. There are pretty cliffs and I think we all got a little too close to the edge for comfort- but the pictures came out nice. I bought a really pretty scarf with different shades of blue and red in it. The ferry ride over and back was very rough and a lot of us got sea sick- but it was well worth the trip. On the bus ride back my proffessors were talking about hand jobs and drowning donkeys…..weird doesn’t even begin to cover it- but I got a good laugh out of it. Tomorrow is my last day here in Galway and then Monday we are on our way to Dingle! Hopefully tonight will be a fun night since I didn’t really go out the last two, but I’m not holding any expections.
Ireland Day 6- Silly Americans
So yesterday was pretty uneventful. We tried to go to Central Park a night club here in Galway, but it was just too crowded to dance and after getting shoved a multiplicity of times we peaced out and tried to salvage the night at the Front Door. When we left the club, this Irish girl asked us why we were leaving and we told her becaue it was too crowded and he laughed at us. She was like ” crowded is good! You girls need to learn the Irish way! You just use your elbows and and if a guy comes up pow! and you make space for yourself. Irish boys love Americans!” and then her friends came over to ask why we were leaving and she told them cause we said it was too crowded and they laughed at us and went into the club. Eventually we just ended up at McDonald’s and met this Irish boy Garret who probably knows more about American history than anyone I have ever met. He was teasing us about being Americans in McDonald’s ,but we were hungry and everything closes early so we ended up there. He explained to us that it’s cause of GW Bush that the world thinks of Americans as cowboys and girls. Which makes a lot of sense. We asked him what the irish phrase cheers meant and he told us it means anything-that you could basically say it about anything. I was like so if I walk around the street saying cheers to people they won’t think I’m a stupid American? and He was like no! they would think theres an educated American! Anyways he was quite entertaining and he left and we left shortly after him and on the way home I was talking about what a chill person he was….and then this guy in front of us turns around and its Garret and he’s like I was wondering why I was still hearing American girls! I was so embarrased lol, but he lives right near our B&B and he knows the people who run it. Anyways, I got to sleep late today because we didn’t have class and then we went to NUI and we presented a powerpoint to the faculty about the difference we learned between Irish life and American Life and we gave them a thank you card and some bakery stuff. They were so appreciative. I was so happy they liked it. Now we are just chilling at the B&B. I think I am going to catch up on Glee and relax until dinner. :) Idk if I’m doing anything tonight-we will play it by ear.
Ireland Day 4/5- Poor Life Choices
So last night was fun…and this morning was not. :-) I really need to stick to my intuition and not drink more than that-or rather let people convince me to drink more than I can. Anyways I didn’t blog about yesterday during the day cause there wasn’t anything really interesting to talk about. We spent the day at NUI learning about psych and what not but nothing overally interesting happened. I had a ton of fun last night though- Anne, Jen, and I went to Fagans for dinner which was mad good and then went back to get ready while the other group went to grab food. We were supposed to meet up at the King’s Head, but they were mad late so Anne, Jen, and I went into the bar and had a drink and listened to a live band while we waited. Then we met up with Cassie which was a lot of fun! We went to the Dail Bar and had a couple pints of Bulmer’(correction for last blog) and chilled and talked and got to hear all about Cassie’s Ireland experience. Then Cassie’s American friends (also from Nova) showed up and they were very nice. The bars/pubs we had planned on going to were all closed, so we decided to go to The Front Door again. So when I got there I order my fourth pint of Bulmer’s(already pushing it cause I was feeling very drunk already-yes I am a light weight…I have no problem admitting it lol) This kid walked up to me and started talking to me about how classly I was drinking Bulmer’s (whatevs lol). I don’t remember his name haha, but he was really cute. He said something about my braids being sexy and bought me a coke and captain morgan which is really yummy and we talked for quite awhile. Then his friend came over and started talking to me about my accent and he was from Cork and his name was Tony. He wasn’t cute but he was very nice and we had a good chat. He bought me a coke and whiskey which was very yummy and he asked for my email so he can tell me where to visit in Cork. Anyways I was pretty drunk at this point from the alcohol and tony was like “don’t worry I won’t take advantage of you” which I found funny because I wouldn’t have let him even if he wanted to so I wasn’t worried about anything. Then the first guy came back and was jokingly like “oh you trying to steal my girl?” which I also found funny. Then I talked to the American boys and Cassie got rid of Tony and a potentially embarassing hook-up(tho I don’t think I was drunk enough to actually kiss him haha) well I talked to this kid Sean and he was cute and he’s in our grade. I thought we had a good chat but who knows? I was drunk he could be thinking that girl is crazy haha. Then I went home and we walked in the rain and I was talking wayyyyy tooo loud and then I woke up not feeling too well. Today at NUI I got to learn about midwifery and the midwife who spoke was frickin gorgeous and so nice. We then got to visit the hospital and there hopital and uniforms are so old fashioned which I think is beyond cute! On the way home from the hospital some Irish guy walked pat us and threw out his arms and was like “you are all gorgeous!”-Irish boys make me laugh…..American boys take note- girls like it when you say what’s up… atleast I do. I frickin hate playing the guessing game about whether someone is into you or not. But that’s another rant for another time. Anyways we are leaving to go to Dinner as a big group tonight at Muro’s or Monroe’s or something like that and then we have to come back and work on our presentation for the faculty before we go anywhere. I really want to go dancing tonight at CP’s or one ofthe clubs…Idk about drinking tonight after last night I think that might not be a great idea, but we’ll see what happens. I want to meet up with Cassie again and go to her house, but Idk if anyone is going to join me so I might need to call a cab and just go by myself. I don’t know how long the project is going to take so who knows I might just need to meet Cassie somewhere on shops street. But anyways tonight should be great Craic and I’m super excited and hope I didn’t make too much of a fool of myself last night and if I did oh well I am in Ireland just trying to have fun :)
Ireland Day 3: Great Craic
so tonight I am not going out. I mean…I may…Idk..prolly not. Cassie told me tonight is a down night so I don’t really see the point in going and spending money. Anyways I don’t really remember where I left off yesterday…..okay so firstly we figure out why the Irish boys hated us…and it was because we were with our guy nurse Shazi haha. I think they didn’t like him very much because we were fine last night when we went out without him. First we went and got pizza at Fat Eddie’s—which btw had the most banging pizza and i was in shock, but its true. then we went and got some bulmers and came back to the B&B after wandering for an hour trying to find Cassie’s house. Then we went to Taaffes and had strawberry and cream tequilla rose before heading to Sonny’s and I had some yummy butterscotch shot ……then we went to the Front Door which was pretty fun and I had a butter ball, blue and red after shock, and woo woo. Sorry I went to remember so I know what to order in the future. Anyways, so at Taaffes there was a live Irissh band playing Galway girl <3 and the bartender was super chill and filled us in on whats good craic(fun) around here. Sonny’s was a bust, but some old guy was talking to Kathleen, and then she stole his beer and we walked upstairs to the front door where he followed her in order to get his beer back. At the front door, the funniest things happened. For one thing Anne was cornered by this Irish kid Jason and he kissed her even tho she pushed him away. Two seconds after jason walked away, this other creepy guy swooped in and tried to do the same thing. This other Irish kid Carl was watching the whole thing happen with us and when the second guy came over he wa like “what perfume are you wearing!” to Anne, which we found funny. Kathleen met this 6 foot something rugby player who convinced us to go to this club called club K. Side note-Irish guyss have no clue how to dance…they dance the robot….and I’m pretty sure they are unaware of the concept of grinding…which I find entertaining. Anyways, I ran into Cassie- which I think was awesome luck! I was happy we were able to hang for a bit before she left. So the fun part: I was about to leave and this random Irish kid tapped me on the shoulder and was like “Kiss me!” and put his arms out. lol So I was like Eh, what the hell and was like “okay”…which I think caught him off guard…..lol and if you want the rest of this story I will tell you in person so ya…..anyways I walked away from him and then this second guy taped me on the shoulder(he was mad cute btdubs) and he was like “hi where are you from” and I was liek the United States. and he was like “where from?” and I was like “New Jersey” and he was like…”I am going to the Jersey Shore this summer” and I was like good choice! and he was like “I am visiting my friend Christine. do you know Christine?” and I was like hun you need to give me more then that there are a lot of Christine’s…and he was like “Chrsitine O’Connel” and I was like nope I don’t sorry and he was like ” I’m going to go visit on the 4th of July and we are going to go on the water, are you going on the water?” and “I was like yeah I am, that’s the only way to watch fireworks!” and he was like ” I look forward to seeing you this summer” and kissed me on the cheek and then I was like yeah (and in my head I was like this boy doesn’t realize how big the Jersey Shore is does he? haha) and then I backed away to leave cause my girlfriends had walked outside the club to go home, and he grabbed my arm and he was like ” you look really good by the way” and I was just like thanks and laughed and walked away. Idk I found the whole thing quiet amusing….these Irish boys are pretty entertaining. Then we walked back and crashed out. Today we went to NUI and learned a whole bunch of stuff….Erickson and company where late today-which means we were late AGAIN…which I think is both rude and embarrassing. We got to do this really cool simulation lab of emergency response to a Cardiac Arrest. Then we all went shopping and I got a Galway United Rugby Scarf, a trinity heart key necklace, and a Galway Hurling Jersey. So sick. I also got my mom and sisters there little trinkets and I got some post cards. Then we went to the Crepe place again for dinner and walked until we found chocolate and then came back here to Ardawn…..not much doing…cept my compy is about to die so the end!